Here is a thought.
Explore your mind, listen, learn, laugh and love.
With the right perceptive in mind, your life will rise to the highest heights.
Here is a thought.
Explore your mind, listen, learn, laugh and love.
With the right perceptive in mind, your life will rise to the highest heights.
Hello my dear Friends and my dear Readers,
I am 40 years old (no, it’s not my real age, it’s how I feel today, I was born in 1962, you do the math ). The secret is that time works for me now, not against me. My energy is back, my metabolism is increasing, and the feeling is great.
Few years ago time was working against me. Time was aging me, making me feel and look older. I started noticing my back, my knees, my hands, my bones… As I was getting older, some of my extra pounds started bothering me. Suddenly, those few pounds grew up on me. I became puffier and heavier. Diet and exercises never worked for me. In another words, I was gaining back all what I was losing. I was getting heavier and heavier. And then, what happened? Apparently, my weight started increasing, and all depression came with it. I started to hide myself from pictures, from parties, from social life, etc.
This blog is for you if you see and feel youself just as felt not long ago. We can talk, share experiences, and help each other. I just wanted to share my experience with you. Why? Because, if someone would’ve taught me earlier, I would’ve changed my life earlier… So… Earlier is better, right?
There are a lot of publications about healthy lifestyle, how to eat right, how to exercise, how to take care of yourself, but it’s easy to say, and very hard to do. I found a secret and I wanted to share it with you.
I have been looking for a small clutch / purse. The one that I can take to a nice dinner, club, theatre, parties or just light shopping. It should fit nothing more than my wallet, camera, phone and few smaller items such as lipstick or compact make-up for those long evenings.
A clutch / purse that hangs on the shoulder, between chest and hip level, with chain strap and a zippier. The clutch / purse has to be elegant, classy, sexy and a color that can go with brown or black. Leather is the material of preference. High-end name brand within reasonable cost would be ideal.
I am heading out shopping to find that perfect clutch / purse. My starting point is New Bond Street in London. It's like 5th Avenue in Manhattan, NY but much narrower.
Here are the clutches / purses that I want to compare. There is always a possibility of finding something new. Let's see which clutch / purse wins my preference.
I am comparing Louis Vuitton, Chanel, Dior and Montblanc. The Montblanc won the top 4 over Prada. Let's see which one has the best material quality, warranty, size and price.
If you have any opinions, I would love to hear it.
Let’s just say you are in a relationship and the question of whether or not to live together comes up. What do you do? Which option is better? When is it okay to start living together with your partner? Living together is a big decision, especially when you are not married and it’s even a bigger decision when you are not even engaged.
A relationship is like a hike to the peak of the mountain. There is a trail that you must follow. Either you can walk the trail, jog it or run it, but you can fly it nor take short cuts. In a relationship, everything has its own timing whether you are moving at a faster pace or slower. The key is to keep on the right path. A path will lead you to the top of the mountain, where you will be rewarded but be patient. Allow the path to direct your speed of travel. If you take short cuts or force a faster speed than you are able, you risk of getting lost and not making it back to the trail.
It’s a big commitment
When you decide to live together; you are making a larger commitment to the person than it might seem at the beginning. Think about all the factors not just the idea of living together and sharing a home. Below I have made a list of what I think goes into living together.
· Sharing your space 24/7
· Seeing all sides and colors of that person including emotional and stressful behavior
· Eliminating privacy from your life
· Sharing all details of your daily activities and personal life
· Learning how the other person functions and compromising some of your habits
The relationship should be ready
Let the relationship get to the stage where living together is the next step on the path. It might take a year, two or marriage, but allow your relationship to decide. When you, your partner and your relationship arrive to the point on the path where living together is the next step, don’t hesitate to take it. Living together can be absolutely wonderful in so many ways, when it’s the right time. However, avoid letting excuses, or irrelevant reasons become the motive for living together. The irrelevant reasons are extremely dangerous for your relationship. They tend to seem rational at the time, but soon after, the relationship may suffer a great deal of unfixable pain. Try to avoid the scenarios listed below that may pull your relationship off the safe trail.
Excuses are deceiving
· Saving money on rent, sharing expenses or anything that has to do with money
· To live closer together
· To move out of your parents house
· To try to convince your partner that marriage is the next step
(You will be surprised how many people attempt to convince their partner of marriage by living together.)
· To obtain more control over your partners life
· Just because it would be fun
Be ready to make it or break it
When a couple lives together, it tends to accelerate the relationship but only in one direction. It only accelerates arrival to separation much faster than it would have otherwise. However, living together doesn’t accelerate arrival to marriage faster. From my experience and theory, living together when the relationship isn’t ready doesn’t help to bring the relationship closer, but instead drives the partners apart much faster. When your relationship is ready for the commitment of living together, than I suggest you move forward and take that next step. It’s absolutely wonderful to live with someone who you love, trust and see a long future with. Of course there might be issues that arise between the couple when you first start living together, however, that’s where your relationship readiness comes into play. If your relationship was ready for the step of living together, not very many issues will be large enough to break you apart.
Hidden skeletons in the closet
Living together opens up closet doors to all good and bad habits. You must be ready to know your partners good and bad side and your partner must be ready to know yours. When your relationship is on the path and living together seems to be the correct next step, then take the opportunity to live together.
Living before marriage
I am a believer in knowing your partner before getting married. Especially with the divorce rate climbing higher than 50%, it is so important to eliminate any chances of hidden skeleton becoming the reason for your divorce. This is not to say that any small detail or habit should be the reason for not marrying your partner. It is mostly to identify the personality of your partner in a day to day basis as it would be if you were married. (As close as possible.)
One suggestion to making living together better
The main idea behind living together is being open minded. Allow your habits to change. Be flexible and willing to adapt to new living style. Set no expectations, be positive and watch your life and experience bloom tremendously.
Final take away
The most important point I would like you to remember is the more pressure and responsibility you place onto the relationship before the relationship is ready, the harder it is for it to succeed. Be gentle and kind to your relationship. It needs the same love, nurture, and care as any growing thing.
I would love to hear what you have experienced in your relationships and how they have turned out.
For the summer, which look would you pick? Benetint from Benefit vs. regular lipstick or lipgloss?
First let me start with the summer look of this year? A summer look for this year is keeping it natural but colorful without overdoing the color.
For my taste lipstick was never an
option. Usually the color is too heavy for the summer and it adds too
much formality. Do you usually see many people wearing lipstick to the
office in the morning? - Probably
not.
On the other hand, what about lipgloss? Lipgloss is a better option than lipstick, but the duration of how long the lipgloss lasts on the lips is fairly short. Lipgloss is one of those things that you apply right before you enter a party, a bar or when you meet up with your date. It's the one that makes a shiny impression but disappears soon after.
So, if you are like me, neither lipstick nor lipgloss is the right solution. One is too heavy and the other I never remember to keep reapplying.
However, don't you worry. I found the perfect solution.
Benetint by Benefit is seriously unbelievable. It's the best lip product I have ever used or tested. A friend introduced the liptint to me recently after I commented on her lip color. Her lips looked so naturally pink. I didn't even know she was wearing anything.
Benetint is a ONCE a day tint. I put it on in the morning with my makeup and even now, 15 hours later, you can still tell a difference. (But only if you new my natural lip color) I have very light pink lip color that tends to blend into my face, especially when wearing some makeup.
Benetint gave me the perfect lips that I have always wanted. It's the perfect natural pink color for the summer. You will be surprised how much you will like this after the first application. Not only can you use Benetint on your lips, it can also be a great summer blush or even an evening eye shadow base. Think of it as a three pack in one deal.
The color that you see when looking at the bottle is not the same color that you get on your lips. It's more like a build on. The more you apply, the brighter it gets.
For the night, you can wear it with lipgloss or just a thicker layer.
It’s made from real rose petals. No artificial coloring and no chemicals.
You can find Benetint at Sephora for $28. It's well worth the money.
And MORE...
Even Christopher Drummond in his blog
states how amazing Benetint looks.
http://christopherdrummondbeauty.blogspot.com/2007/08/benetint-by-benefit.html
Try it and send me a picture.
We all say we
are suppose to live everyday to the fullest, but do we actually walk the talk
or just talk the talk. From my observation of many lives of people around,
including my own, we tend to live for tomorrow. What is tomorrow?
Is tomorrow truly happiness?
I went to a beautiful 22 year old girl’s funeral yesterday. She was such a smart, enthusiastic, loving, caring, friendly, fearless, inspirational girl who just graduated from Washington State University about two weeks ago. The loss of her precious life just made me think. Think about life, about living, priorities, what's truly important and how fast life can be taken away. Just in a blink of an eye, before she could even realize what was happening, the car rolled over due to a drunk and angry driver, who wouldn't let anyone else drive his car, and their went Tanya's life. It happened within seconds and a precious life was gone. Although I didn't know Tanya extremely well, I knew she was a girl who lived everyday without fear or regret. In her honor, I would like to share with you her outlook on life. I think she would want everyone to cherish every minute of everyday and live with happiness and joy to matter what happens. None of us know when our time is up. It could be tonight, tomorrow, a month from today or several decades from now. Not only is our life with an expiration date, but so is everyone else around us. This includes; husbands, wives, best friends, children, parents and the list continues.
Since we have no idea when our time is up, stop living tomorrow
and start living today. As we rise to become angels, our memories,
experiences and love is what we can take with us. It's also what people
can remember us by. In no means am I or would Tanya suggest for us to
feel fear or live in sorrow. Quite the opposite is true. Live with
happiness, love, inspiration and fulfillment by recognizing your dreams and
goals. Don't live to see the future. Live to rejoice the everyday
journey of you life. The journey is where the memories are created.
During the journey is when you meet new people, reconnect with the old,
share laughs and stories, enjoy the each others company, make memories and then
retell them over and over again.
Take a look at your life for a second. Are you where you
want to be? Are you happy with your everyday self? If you had a
year to live, what would you change?
The above questions are three questions that can help us determine
if we are walking the talk or just talking the talk. I have heard many
people say, I live life to the fullest everyday. From the same people,
minutes late I have heard complain after complain come out of their mouth. Be
honest with yourself. We are the ones making our own decisions. No
one is here to judge us, but our own self when the time comes.
Here are few tips in order to start living today vs. living
tomorrow. From little that I knew Tanya, this is how I think she would
have put it.
1. Be yourself, know yourself and love yourself. Don't
compromise yourself for other people's acceptance.
2. Happiness is something that you create for
yourself. Make yourself happy first. Without your
happiness, you can't make anyone else happy.
3. Determine your dreams, aspirations, desires, goals
and stimulus. Write them down and figure out a way to incorporate
them into your everyday life.
4. Find some time to devote to your mind, soul and spirit while
taking a deep dive into figuring out what fulfills your needs.
5. Keep a balanced life. Everyday, make yourself
happy. Do something that you love. Do something that brings you joy and
warmth to your heart. Nothing is good if it's over done. Not even the
good things.
6. Cherish your moments. Make every moment a moment of
happiness. Abandon the negative thoughts by remember that it can always
be worse. We are blessed to be living right now, right here.
7. Love with your heart. Feeling of love can be pleasuring
and devastating. Both of them end with lessons learned and memories
created. Even a devastating love always has a good outcome. Many
times, we don't see that until much later down the road.
8. Think with your brain. Life has many options and
opportunities. Some good and some bad. Some of the options lead
down the wrong path. Think before making a decision and way the risk.
Why is it that when we can look back and understand the risks of our
previous decisions? Why is it at the time of the decision, the risk
becomes transparent?
9. With the deep dive exercise, find your passions, get to know
them and incorporate them into your daily life. Life lived through
passion is so much more gratifying.
10. Don't hold back.
If you think I missed something please let me know.
Are you craving some dessert? I am actually craving one right now while sitting here and writing this post. I have a no sugar added - light ice cream in the refrigerator, but is there a healthier alternative to a dessert?
I decided to make a quick trip to Safeway just down the street from me in search for another alternative. This is what I found: A sugar free – fat free vanilla pudding. Sounds very delicious, but more delicious than no sugar added – light vanilla ice cream? Let’s figure out which one is healthier and yummier.
While shopping at Safeway for a second alternative dessert, I also grabbed fat free milk for the pudding.
In order to decide which one was yummier, I had to prepare the pudding. The pudding took me about 1 minute to prepare and then about 5 minutes to refrigerate.
Trick to preparing a pudding: Put milk and the pudding powder in the blender and put it on high for about 1 minute. No need to stir. It comes out perfect!!!!
To test the yumminess of the pudding and ice cream, I decided to rate them on my top 5 criteria for a delicious dessert. (See chart below) The two items were rated on the scale of 1-10 (1 = low/not yummy. 10 = high/very yummy.)
To test the healthiness of the pudding and ice cream, I decided to refer back to the nutritional facts. (See chart below)
Green means
good.
Orange represents a
little high.
Red represents bad.
From the nutritional facts, it shows that both the ice cream and the pudding are pretty close in calorie count.
As far as my opinion on five dessert factors and the overall rating, they also came in very close.
Since the taste rating and the calorie rating are both similar, I need to find something that will help me determine which one is the better choice.
Sodium in the pudding is very high. The recommended amount of daily sodium intake is 1500mg - 2300mg which includes added sodium (salt) and already what's inside food. 300mg of 1500mg is 20% of the daily recommended intake of sodium.
If you are going to eat the pudding, make sure the rest of the day’s sodium intake is low. The ice cream has very low sodium in the ingredients. On the other hand, ice cream is higher in total fat, carbohydrates and sugar. Even thought the ice cream doesn’t have any added sugar, there is still a small amount.
My overall option: If you are looking for a healthy dessert, both Sugar Free - Fat Free pudding and the No Sugar Added - ligh ice cream are good choices as long as you stick with the serving amount. If you want to pick one, then I would pick the ice cream. However, if you are planning on eating more than one serving, then stick with the pudding. But make sure to watch the sodium intake for rest of the day.
The pudding is
extremely fast and easy to make and it tastes great - which makes pudding a
wonderful dessert dish without a strict limit on the serving size.
Prices:
Pudding 1.5 oz pack is about $1.50. Makes 6 servings
Ice Cream 1 pack is about $5.50. Contains 12 servings
Feel free to tell me which one you prefer. I would love to hear your opinion.
Do you know which fats are good for you and which fats are bad for
you? We all know trans fats are bad, but is that it?
Recently, I discovered the difference
between good and bad fats to only determine what I was eating frequently was
considered to be an unhealthy fat.
Unhealthy fats:
All saturated fat, trans fat and foods
already high in cholesterol such as liver, organ meats and egg yolks are
unhealthy fats.
I am sure you have all heard that trans
fats are very bad for you. However, majority of the products don't even
use trans fat anymore in ingredients. So, that's pretty much out of the
question.
What about saturated fat? A
saturated fat is one that turns solid at room temperature and is found mostly
in foods from animals and a few plants. I would like to emphasize this
post on saturated fats.
Saturated Fats are:
For example, chicken fats are unhealthy fats. If you cook the chicken without removing the fats, then the chicken will absorb it. After the fat is already absorbed by the chicken, it doesn't matter if you cut the fat off the chicken before eating it. It's already too late.
Have you ever tried the whole roasted chicken from Costco, Safeway or another grocery store? Every week, I bought the Costco roasted chicken, which to me seemed pretty healthy. Before eating the chicken, I would remove all the fat. I figured if I removed the fat before eating the chicken, then I wouldn't be eating the fat. Less calories for me. This is far from the truth. The chicken cooked with the fat and the skin, is almost the same as eating the fat from the chicken.
So if saturated fats are bad then what
are the good, healthy fats?
Healthy fats:
Unsaturated fats are oils such as canola, olive, peanut, corn, soybean, sesame and sunflower oils. Nuts, olives and fatty fish including salmon and tuna are also unsaturated fats. These fats are much better than saturated fats, but in moderation.
This was another interesting fact for me. I am not a big fan of cooking with oils or using it in my food, but it's great to know that unsaturated fats are actually healthy for the body. The body needs a little bit of fat as part of the diet, so why give it healthy fats vs. unhealthy fats.
Here are some tips on how to reduce
unhealthy fats in your diet:
I hope this post can help you reduce
and replace the unhealthy fats in your diet. If you know of other food
items that seem healthy but are actually fatty, please share your knowledge
with us.
Have you ever thought which one is better? Is it better to be perfect or to be good? Is it better to love a perfect person or to love a good person? We always want to be perfect, meet the perfect man, have the perfect job but is that really better than good.
What is
perfect? Is it ultimately the best that
can be achieved? Is it even real?
Perfect is defined as being complete of its kind without defect or blemish in the Princeton dictionary.
To me a perfect person represents someone who has the entire life figured out without any shortcomings and has no flaws in personal life, work life, personality traits and every other aspect that comes with being a human. A perfect person makes no mistakes. Never says or does the wrong thing. In my mind, this person sees life as a beautiful experience with no negative thoughts. Can a human be perfect or could it be called a robot?
On the other hand what is good? Is something good, good enough? I ask myself this question when I receive an “oh is everything okay” question after an answer to a “how are you” with “I am good”. Why does it seem that “I am good” answer doesn’t translate to exactly what it is that I am saying? To me, good sometimes doesn’t feel good enough. Definition of good from Princeton dictionary is having desirable or positive qualities... So what is a good person?
For me a good person is someone who has is desirable and has many positive qualities. Most likely many characteristics are similar to a perfect person but with room for flaws and blemishes. A good person is someone who makes mistakes on an occasion, but follows up to fix them. It’s someone who is caring and considerate of others feelings but sometimes can experience a feeling of selfishness or jealousy without triggering any actions. A good person in my mind knows his flaws and tries to avoid releasing them.
Although, many of us see perfection as idealistic, I don’t think perfection is realistic or appealing. Let me tell you why. I think a perfect person is predictable. It’s someone who doesn’t make mistakes and always does the right thing every time. From my experience perfect is quite boring. That means no mistakes, no hidden treasures, no surprises or lucky draws. It also means life is pretty much all figured out. Instead, I want mystery, spontaneous behavior, different levels of excitement, variety of experiences and just a fun person. I heard someone say a quote which always struck me. He said “a perfect person is the one that’s not perfect.”
To
conclude, I think we should all strive to be perfect, but not actually be
it. Work on being a better, nicer and a
more considerate person. Don’t figure
everything out. Leave a little for spontaneity. Take risks when you can and hope to get
lucky. Try to do everything to the best
of your ability, but leave room for error.
If mistakes are made, learn from it without punishing yourself. In my mind, this is a perfect person. I believe when someone reaches perfection
that’s when they stop learning and living.
Work towards perfection, but be a good person while living. J
I
would love to hear what you think. Please
comment.
What’s the difference when owning two dogs instead of one? Which one is better?
If you are considering bringing in a second dog into your family,
let me give you my comparison, insight and thoughts.
When
my fiancé and I first bought our Yorkie named Sachi, we were both working from
home with very flexible schedules. It
was a perfect time to bring in and train a little puppy who needed to use the
bathroom every two to three hours. While
the training process was difficult, he still kept us entertained throughout the
day. The most amazing part about owning Sachi was his warmth and comfort towards us. It’s
truly a feeling of unconditional love without judgment, contingencies, rules or
expectations.
Sachi’s
favorite daily activity was to bring us his toys and rub them against our legs
until we gave him and played with him. He
usually got what he wanted. It
was so hard to say "no", especially to his cute puppy face. After
several months of Sachi begging for our attention, my fiancé and I started to
feel more guilty as we dedicated less and less time to playing with
Sachi. If
I rejected Sachi’s play request, he would either try to find someone else he
could play with or just get sad and lay down in his bed.
Dog’s
happiness is not based on the same principles as of human's. If
I was to really narrow it down, Sachi’s happiness was based on two
things: 1) love and attention for him; and 2) his play time. If
these two conditions were met, his was happy.
As
the months went on, we spend less time playing with Sachi. Our playtime decreased from the whole day to just a few hours. We like to go out several days out of the week to dinner, drinks, or
clubs, and leaving Sachi at home all alone was even more painful for my fiancé
and I. As
more feelings of guilt came upon us, I brought up the question of adding
another dog to the family. He
was completely, 100% against the idea. It
wasn’t even an option. As more months went by, an opportunity came by to adopt another Yorkie name
Lucky. Without hesitation, my fiancé had a change of heart and we took Lucky in a heartbeat.
Adding Lucky to our family was the best decision we could make. And
here is why.
We
saw a sudden decrease in our need to play with Sachi, because Sachi and Lucky were entertaining themselves. Even
after a year and a half, he seems to be preoccupied with Lucky. There
are still times when he asks for our attention, but nowhere near the amount as
before. Sachi
and Lucky have playtime virtually the whole day, everyday playing with each other. If
they want to run after each other, they can do that at a moment's notice. Now,
when Sachi or Lucky ask us to play and give them attention, we are more than
happy to devote our time to them since it doesn’t consume the majority of our
day.
Pros
Cons
I
did some research on how other dog owners felt about having two dogs over
one. The majority of the dog owners said they would never go back to owning
one dog after experience having two. The
difference the owners stated was the amount of time the dogs dedicated to each
other rather than the owner.
If you are going to go through the trouble of having one dog,
the increased trouble of having two isn’t much different. The
activities such as taking the dog to a park, the vet, grooming and feeding are the
exactly the same, except for the bills. If
you can afford to pay double of everything and have enough space for a second
dog, then the pros of having two dogs who keep each other company outweigh the
cons of having to pay double.
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